WEDDING INVITATION ETIQUETTE

When should you send out your save the dates? How many invitations should you order?
Where do you list your wedding website? There so many details to consider when planning your
wedding stationery. No need to worry though, we have the information and tips you’re looking
for to make sure your wedding mailings are all handled perfectly.

POSTAGE TIPS
Take one complete assembled invitation and
RSVP card to the post office to get weighed
so you will know the exact postage

WEDDING INVITATIONS

EXTRA INVITATIONS
Order a few extra invitations, typically between 10-20.
Don’t forget to save one for a keepsake!

CHECK YOUR DETAILS
Double check dates, times and places before placing your
invitation order. Ask the groom or a bridesmaid to proof also.

GUEST LIST ETIQUETTE
Traditionally, the guest list gets split three ways. The couple gets
half the guest list, and each set of parents split the other half.
Example, if you’re planning to invite 200 guests, you and the groom
get to invite 100 people, your parents invite 50 people and your
parents-to-be also get to invite 50 people.

Don’t invite more people than your wedding venue can handle,
even when you are expecting that some invitees will not be able
to attend. Keep it on the conservative side and if you have room
you can choose to invite others later. This is another great reason
to order extra invitations!

WHEN TO MAIL OUT WEDDING INVITATIONS
Typically wedding invitations should be sent out 2 months prior
to the wedding. If you want to send out invitations to other people
based on regrets, it’s a good idea to start sending out your wedding
invitations closer to 10 weeks in advance.


HOW TO ADDRESS YOUR WEDDING INVITATION ENVELOPES

OUTER ENVELOPE:

  • Envelope used for mailing
  • Return addresses should be placed on back flap of envelope
  • Formally addressed using titles, first and last names
  • Titles may be abbreviated, but all other words should be spelled out

INNER ENVELOPE:

  • Holds the assembled invitation
  • Goes inside of outer envelope (if selected)
  • Includes names of those invited
  • No address or other information is needed
  • Do not seal the inner envelope if using an outer envelope

MARRIED COUPLES (FORMAL)

  • Titles and husbands name. (Mr. & Mrs. John Smith)

MARRIED COUPLES (INFORMAL)

  • The inner envelope can address by first names

MARRIED COUPLES (DIFFERENT LAST NAMES)

  • The wife’s name is traditionally written first

UNMARRIED COUPLES:

  • Names should be written on separate lines without the word “and” (it implies marriage)

FAMILY WITH CHILDREN:

  • The inner envelope can specify the children by name that are invited

SINGLE GUEST:

  • Outer envelope addresses the guest only
  • The inner envelope can include the guest’s name followed by ‘and Guest’

SAVE THE DATES

Send Save the Date cards 6-9 months prior to your wedding to help
your guests plan ahead and to help you achieve a better turnout.

If you are planning a destination wedding, you may want to send
your Save the Date cards out 9-12 months prior.

Save the Date cards should only include the following:

  • Wedding Date
  • Your Names
  • Location
  • Wedding Website Address (optional)

Life Invited offers two types of Save the Dates

  • Save the Date Enclosure Card
  • Save the Date Postcard

RECEPTION CARD

If the reception and wedding ceremony are being held at different locations, it is then necessary to have a reception card. Extra reception cards are also needed if you are inviting more guests to your reception than your ceremony.

Information to include is:

  • Request Line (optional)
  • Occasion
  • Time
  • Location
  • Specific Details if needed (dress code, adults only, etc)

No need for a reception card?
Turn this into an invitation to your rehearsal dinner!


RSVP CARD

In order to obtain an accurate headcount for yourself and your caterer, the date on your RSVP cards should be 2-3 weeks before the wedding. This will give you plenty of time to create your seating chart and give your caterer a final headcount. Envelopes are included but don’t forget the stamp!

Information to include is:

  • Request Line with Reply by date
  • Area for guests to write in the names of those attending
  • Guests’ Response

We offer two RSVP options in our Product List. Choose the one to suit your needs!

  • RSVP card without menu options
  • RSVP card with menu options

DIRECTION CARD

Direction cards can be provided to your guests to help find their way easily and ensure a timely arrival.

Inlcude addresses or turn-by-turn directions spelled out in a clear, easy to read fonts. Directions should be simple and easy to follow. You may want to include a GPS address as well.

No need for a direction card?
Turn this into a bridal shower invitation!


ACCOMMODATION CARD

This card should list nearby hotel or lodging information. If you are paying for rooms, this should be clearly stated.

Information included on this card should be:

  • Provision Lines
  • Location(s)
  • Phone Number(s)
  • Deadline (optional)
  • Wedding Website Address (optional)

THANK YOU CARD

Every person that attended your wedding should receive a thank you card! If you received a gift from them, thank them for that gift. If you didn’t receive a gift from them, thank them for their presence. Make it personal and get the groom to help! These should be mailed within 3 months of the wedding or when gifts were received.

Along with your guests, there are many others who should also receive a Thank You card:

  • Bridal Shower Guests
  • Bridal Shower Hosts
  • Bridesmaids and Groomsmen
  • Wedding Vendors (Photographer, Caterer, Florist, etc)
  • Your officiants
  • Your parents
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